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This entire subject has unfortunately touched our family again.

Someone passing without having made up a will. For the love of God, if you haven't made up your will, PLEASE do so immediately!

My wife's younger brother, only 59yrs old, procrastinated about making out his will and final wishes. Another person who seen his primary care physician regularly and was apparently in great health. Healthy, active and had just retired after years of working for the State DNR forestry division.

He loved nature, hunting and fishing. On the 6-2 he decided he wanted to take a drive through some back roads to scout out some cuttings for hunting this fall. This wasn't unusual for him do just up and go do, sometimes returning home late. He was known to finish his jaunt, then stop at a friends house for conversation before heading home.
His son tried his cell phone a couple times with no answer, which was also not unusual, because his dad didn't always keep it charged properly. Again, nothing out of the ordinary.

The son and his mother went to bed early, both having to work in the morning. When they got up, he still hadn't shown. Then worry and panic immediately set in. They jumped in a vehicle and knowing the back roads he traveled, started looking. Just 2 miles from their home, they found his truck, which had ran off the road into a ditch with significant damage. His son was the first to the truck and found his dad laying over the steering wheel with the doors locked. Immediately they called 911. They had to break the drivers window to open the door, finding that he had passed. I can't imagine what his son felt, knowing his father spent 20hrs in the ditch before they found him. Just 2 miles from home!
What had happened, was that he had a massive heart attack which killed him instantly, so quickly that he slumped over the steering wheel and the truck crashed into the ditch. The medical examiner stated the heart attack was so quick, sudden and severe, that even if paramedics were instantly there, he could not have been saved.

HIs procrastination has now left his only child, a son, 20yrs old, not only without a father, but with more legal problems than his son could imagine. We are close enough, that when he wanted to talk with me, I listened. I didn't tell him what to do, but suggested one thing that IMO was a requirement, find an estate attorney for help and guidance. Thankfully he is a very smart kid and realizes that he must seek the legal advice and guidance.

I'm not writing this for condolences, I'm not writing this to review EXCUSES that may follow in responses. I'm writing this to make you realize, our time is short. DO NOT PROCRASTINATE!

There's no damn excuse! Procrastination about this subject will only create hardships for the ones we/you love! For the love of God, if you haven't made out your will, do it NOW! It doesn't matter rather you're 60yrs old, or 30yrs old.
 
And again.... I will remind you all...……… do your family and loved ones the last good thing you can possibly do for them. Create your final will.

Yesterday I witnessed a young man and son, weep in grief as his father was lowered into the ground, his final resting place. There just are no words.

After the internment, a friend of the family who's an estate attorney, met with the son later in the day. Thank Goodness this young man has the help he will certainly need.
Thank God that his father had the foresight to add his name on the home and property, but there are other issues which will be harder on this young son. Selling his father's GTO will be tough. Other things will become keepsakes, while some things must go. Way to many legal issues to resolve over time.

PLEASE...……… If you haven't made out your last will and testament, PLEASE do so. It is so hard on those who remain, they do not need the added anguish of probate.

A final farewell, doing what he loved …...…. Goodbye father, brother, companion, friend and BIL. R.I.P.

Jeff walking away.jpg
 
This entire subject has unfortunately touched our family again.

Someone passing without having made up a will. For the love of God, if you haven't made up your will, PLEASE do so immediately!

My wife's younger brother, only 59yrs old, procrastinated about making out his will and final wishes. Another person who seen his primary care physician regularly and was apparently in great health. Healthy, active and had just retired after years of working for the State DNR forestry division.

He loved nature, hunting and fishing. On the 6-2 he decided he wanted to take a drive through some back roads to scout out some cuttings for hunting this fall. This wasn't unusual for him do just up and go do, sometimes returning home late. He was known to finish his jaunt, then stop at a friends house for conversation before heading home.
His son tried his cell phone a couple times with no answer, which was also not unusual, because his dad didn't always keep it charged properly. Again, nothing out of the ordinary.

The son and his mother went to bed early, both having to work in the morning. When they got up, he still hadn't shown. Then worry and panic immediately set in. They jumped in a vehicle and knowing the back roads he traveled, started looking. Just 2 miles from their home, they found his truck, which had ran off the road into a ditch with significant damage. His son was the first to the truck and found his dad laying over the steering wheel with the doors locked. Immediately they called 911. They had to break the drivers window to open the door, finding that he had passed. I can't imagine what his son felt, knowing his father spent 20hrs in the ditch before they found him. Just 2 miles from home!
What had happened, was that he had a massive heart attack which killed him instantly, so quickly that he slumped over the steering wheel and the truck crashed into the ditch. The medical examiner stated the heart attack was so quick, sudden and severe, that even if paramedics were instantly there, he could not have been saved.

HIs procrastination has now left his only child, a son, 20yrs old, not only without a father, but with more legal problems than his son could imagine. We are close enough, that when he wanted to talk with me, I listened. I didn't tell him what to do, but suggested one thing that IMO was a requirement, find an estate attorney for help and guidance. Thankfully he is a very smart kid and realizes that he must seek the legal advice and guidance.

I'm not writing this for condolences, I'm not writing this to review EXCUSES that may follow in responses. I'm writing this to make you realize, our time is short. DO NOT PROCRASTINATE!

There's no damn excuse! Procrastination about this subject will only create hardships for the ones we/you love! For the love of God, if you haven't made out your will, do it NOW! It doesn't matter rather you're 60yrs old, or 30yrs old.
I made mine out 7 years ago and I am only 42. Listen to Encore guys, he has a very good point.
 
Sorry for your loss. Dragged my feet for years. Contacted an attorney I new we could trust and got it done about a year ago. Just the right thing to do. Waited way to long.
 
Yes, its the right thing I agree 100%. I had a cousin years ago in his forties, no life insurance, no will. He was a farmer, got kicked in the chest by a horse which killed him. He left a wife an four kids, very sad situation!

While you are at it get a "living will" too! I have both! This will allow your family to take you off life support so you can pass on. I don't want to be a vegetable living on a machine bed fast!! Also designate a "power of attorney" so your wife or whoever you want can pay your bills when you can't. (POA is no good after you are deceased).
 
Watch, listen and learn...……………...

Every leach will come out of the woodwork looking for what and how they can take advantage of the vulnerable in the moment.

Its already happening in our nephew's case, who by the way I had his age wrong...…. he's 18 instead of 20. My bad.

That GTO his father had...….. well before his father's body had even cooled at the funeral home, a member of his family tried talking him out of the GTO for a 3rd of what its worth. The son almost took the offer, but thank God that other family members talked him out of it. Believe me, that was hard to do tactfully.
His father bought the GTO used, a really great car. For what ever reason, he financed half of the purchase price. He could have just paid cash, but I think he was thinking about his son's college funds?
So this family member made a great offer...……. 'I'll pay the loan off for the GTO. We'll just backdate the sale, but don't tell your attorney about it.' Really? Don't tell your attorney??

The wife and I stepped in after talking with other family members for approval. We have offered to purchase the GTO for the payoff, then take our time and put the GTO up for sale. We'll sell the car for him and anything over the price we paid to pay off the note, we'll give to the son. We'll insure it and have it appraised, then put it up for sale.

DON'T believe this same thing won't happen when you're gone!

If you stop and think about it...….. we've all known or heard horror stories from others.

Make your final will and testament. Designate a personal representative you know you can trust. Living wills vary in some states, but an attorney will advise.
If you're in a long time marriage (a good one), consider a Will Contract.
 
Watch, listen and learn...……………...

Every leach will come out of the woodwork looking for what and how they can take advantage of the vulnerable in the moment.

Its already happening in our nephew's case, who by the way I had his age wrong...…. he's 18 instead of 20. My bad.

That GTO his father had...….. well before his father's body had even cooled at the funeral home, a member of his family tried talking him out of the GTO for a 3rd of what its worth. The son almost took the offer, but thank God that other family members talked him out of it. Believe me, that was hard to do tactfully.
His father bought the GTO used, a really great car. For what ever reason, he financed half of the purchase price. He could have just paid cash, but I think he was thinking about his son's college funds?
So this family member made a great offer...……. 'I'll pay the loan off for the GTO. We'll just backdate the sale, but don't tell your attorney about it.' Really? Don't tell your attorney??

The wife and I stepped in after talking with other family members for approval. We have offered to purchase the GTO for the payoff, then take our time and put the GTO up for sale. We'll sell the car for him and anything over the price we paid to pay off the note, we'll give to the son. We'll insure it and have it appraised, then put it up for sale.

DON'T believe this same thing won't happen when you're gone!

If you stop and think about it...….. we've all known or heard horror stories from others.

Make your final will and testament. Designate a personal representative you know you can trust. Living wills vary in some states, but an attorney will advise.
If you're in a long time marriage (a good one), consider a Will Contract.
I remember reading your OP, seeing the mention of the GTO, and it's needing to be sold, and having a random thought pass through my mind to the effect of;
"I wonder if the car will become a bone of contention?"

Because I can remember how passionate guys were about the GOATS when I was growing up in the '60's.

And, having watched several families without wills, or with wills that did not specify bequests, fracture apart over possessions. GREED is a powerful motivator that can make people do and say things that they will regret for the rest of their lives.
 
I work with retirees so natural having clientele in that age bracket we deal with a lot of death. I could right a book on the BS I have seen that family members do after someone passes and how it just rips families apart. When we have a new client come on board step one is make sure they have a Will, POA, health care directive and a TODD (transfer on death deed for property). We tell them these things aren’t necessarily for you they are so there isn’t a mess for their kids. Get this stuff done!
 

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